I’m not perfect…, and I’m lovin’ it ;)

I do not know why I always take Perfection as a delusive state of mind which is probably the brainchild of some person suffering from megalomaniac sophistication. Maybe, someday somebody would tell me that he/she is perfect and I would indulge myself heart and soul to figure out his follies. Well, well it could be straight envious human touch but I do have a dark heart for people who claim to be perfect. What do you mean by calling yourself perfect? You mean that you are perfect and superior and others who are imperfect are just being graced by your presence?

Well, I smell haughtiness here.

Mine are different! I am perfectly happy being imperfect. Imperfection had given me bliss. I open- heartedly welcome and accept my shortcomings and secretly giggle at my slipshod. I do understand that I am not a Superwoman and I cannot certainly be perfect at whatever I do. I can be good or just okay but certainly not perfect…

As far as I remember, I weren’t a perfect daughter or sister. At times, I used to fight with my Mom and brothers and registered my sharp disagreements with Papa on certain decisions. I didn’t behave like a typical ‘holy cow’ North Indian daughter and as far as I assess, my parents and brothers are still proud of me. It is just like the sheer pleasure of having enchanted ringing bells in your ears when they appreciate my decisions and admit that I have a mind of my own which works beautifully though, of course not so perfectly. I believe perfection is certainly not necessary to be a darling daughter. All you need to do is love your loved-ones unconditionally.

I don’t think I have been a perfect wife or daughter-in-law as well. I do forget where my husband put his favorite jacket or what groceries we needed for the next day. But, I do make it sure that everything happens on time and nobody gets late to work. At times, I do forget and leave the oven switched on but I never miss a chance to narrate my silly anecdotes to my in-laws to make them laugh. I don’t think perfection is that much required for creating and spreading and celebrating happiness. I am certainly not a perfect cook. I am not an expert at Chinese. I don’t know Italian cuisines but I am happy that nobody could raise a finger to my Indian style cooking and whatever experiments I do in my kitchen are saluted by my husband and my in-laws. I do not feel that sophisticated perfection when I fool myself around in my house especially in front of the LED when my husband is really in a great mood to play FIFA Soccer on his X-BOX 1. I love to make silly faces when he begs me to move away and let him play. Well, I am not that perfect at teasing but I do my best and I really love myself for that.

I am certainly not a perfect writer. I make grammatical errors and at times, fail to comprehend what I actually feel. But when my readers say that they love whatever I write, I feel that it is worth it!

I believe that perfection is nothing but a delusive state. The moment people around you get used to your perfection, you no longer remain perfect for them. They simply and unknowingly raise their expectations and thus automatically you are reduced from being perfect to yet-to-be-perfect level and once again the level of perfection gets set beyond your heights[And admit it, your reach!]. You just can’t keep everybody happy. You just can’t meet everybody’s expectations. You just can’t be a robot to nod ‘yes’ to whatever being filled in your ears. Happiness is what counts in the end. People only mind how happy you are and how much happiness you spread and celebrate. You should love what you do and if you don't, be clear, be confident and be happy about it. World is not going to end if you are not perfect at anything. There is no need to put an extra pressure on your mind in the already pressurized surroundings until and unless you and your loved-ones synchronize happiness happily.

So, as the anti-perfectionist syndrome once again giggles inside me, I once again state to all the people reading this blog, are you still trying to be perfect? Just shrug it off! Because believe me, I’m not perfect…, and I’m lovin’ it ;)

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Five Essential things every woman should have...

Education -

Every woman should study as much as she can. At least a Post Graduate degree is essential in any stream. Education always opens the door of opportunities. Keep aside the employment point of view, education develops mental and moral strength. Education is the biggest strength of any woman.

Technical Skills-

Be it the latest mobile app or the new version of desktop operating system, women should keep themselves updated with latest technology happenings. Gone are the times when being ignorant was considered cute. At present, being cute could be vulnerable and more likely prone to dangers. If women wish to become smart, they need to act smart. Technology not only helps in flowing with the wind, it also helps in avoiding being fooled around.

Friends and Social Network -

It is always said and also partially true that the brotherhood among men is stronger than the sisterhood among women. If a woman falls in a problem, another woman thinks a million times before deciding to help her. Obviously, lot of other obligations stop their way. But in the changing scenario social network and friends do play an important role in anybody's life. You never know when you may need their help. So, it is good to have a reserved life, but do not fail to have few strong bonds of friendship. Never let your voice remain unheard.

Confidence -

Every woman should trust herself, respect herself and stop seeing herself from other's eyes. Women need not the society or a fairness cream company to tell them that they are beautiful. Remember, the world is going to treat you the way you treat yourself.

And last but the most important -

Brain -

Women should have brain or the common-sense as we say. Being emotional is good but being an emotional fool can turn out to be disastrous.

HAPPY WOMEN'S DAY!

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Give me one example of failed love and I will give you 10 examples of successful relationships

I have come across many people who do not think twice before generalizing everything. Just because you are too immature to handle relations, just because you are too naive to take decisions, just because you don't understand your responsibilities, just because nobody ever taught you to value your relations, you do not get a right to spread negativity of your childishness and immaturity by stating that "Love doesn't proliferate and Successful relations do not exist."

Here I am sharing two real life stories which I personally adore.

Life is indeed a fairy-tale. All you need is guts and commitment!

KAJOL AND AJAY

'Ajay and Kajol would not last!' This was media’s verdict when the two hogged the limelight for pairing up in real life. The critics labelled them as an ‘unlikely pair’ due to their contrasting personalities.

While, Ajay was known to be shy and an introvert, Kajol was a live wire, who would burst into vivacious laughter at the drop of a hat. Few believed that the relationship would not last long, let alone culminate into marriage. But, defying the media speculations, the couple got married after a four-year long courtship and is still going strong. 

Tying the nuptial knot

Kajol, who was always found reading a Mills & Boon novel, had finally fallen head over heels in love with her Mr. Right. Ajay explained their relationship by saying, "We never resorted to the usual 'I Love you' routine. A proposal never happened. We grew with each other. Marriage was never discussed, but it was always imminent."  This ‘unlikely pair’ tied the knot on February 24, 1999 in a true Maharashtrian style.

Ajay, often regarded as ‘camera shy’, wanted the marriage to be a private affair. He did not even hire professional photographers for the wedding, insisting that he would be the only one with the camera. Therefore, the photographs were totally up, close and personal.The newlyweds left for a two-month long honeymoon to Europe soon after their wedding.

Brushing off the controversies

No matter how smooth their courtship was, their marriage saw a lot of ups and downs. Post the marriage, there were rumours that Kajol did not get along with her in-laws well. But, she came out strongly against the allegation. Also, the couple had to face several media attacks. One of the popular magazines had published Ajay's alleged affair with a much younger actress. Kajol reacted to this saying, “I don't believe in those rumours because I know the way this industry functions. You cannot continue a marriage without the basic trust. Frankly, I don't care for such talk."

Testing times

It was in 2001, when Kajol was pregnant with her first child. Devgn family was all set to welcome their bundle of joy, but Kajol suffered a miscarriage in the sixth month of her pregnancy.

Maintaining great dignity in his sorrow, Ajay informed the media, “Both of us were thrilled when we learnt of the pregnancy. If not today, tomorrow we will look forward to starting a family. Kajol will be back on her feet before you know it. We're happy together and that's all that matters.”

The joy of parenthood

Two years after the miscarriage, the couple got a second chance to experience parenthood. It was on April 20, 2003 that Kajol gave birth to their gorgeous daughter Nysa. Yug, their son came seven years later. Since then, Kajol took motherhood as her first priority. She has also been turning down several offers from the industry till date, just to stay at home with her kids. While for Ajay, Nysa is her weakness; he hates it if he has a day off and she is not around.

Opposites truly attract!

Kajol, in an interview, once said, “I’m really nasty, critical and cutting. Ajay is a much better person than me. It’s not easy being the sensible one all the time, but he’s such a gentleman.”  No wonder this couple has braved all the controversies and testing times, and has managed to come out strong. Ajay sums it up the best. He says, “In our differences we complete and complement each other.”

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An Eternal Love Story- Riteish and Genelia Deshmukh

They fight, they play
and that’s the way, 
they are meant to stay!
Some Love Stories are Meant to be Forever…
Year 2002, it was a day just like any other day but who knew two hearts are going to be one and forever after this day. A 16 year old girl, full of inhibitions came at the Hyderabad airport with her mom to meet a young boy from an influential family of Maharashtra.
The girl was Genelia D’Souza and this young man was none other than Riteish Deshmukh. 
Surprising Twist- Destiny has Different Plans
Initially, Genelia thought that being a chief minister’s son, Riteish will be a spoilt brat and full of tantrums.  So, she decided to give him attitude before he did! Oblivious to her thoughts, Riteish arrived on the terminal and saw this tall girl, who shook hands with him and started looking in a different direction. This cold reaction left him wondering, as why she was behaving so awkward? 
This was their first meeting for the test shoot of their debut film- Tujhe Meri Kasam.  
On the Sets...
To Genelia’s surprise, opposite to her thoughts, Riteish came out to be extremely humble and polite with everybody on the sets. During the shoots, Riteish was immensely respectful towards Genelia’s parents. The actress found it endearing that despite being the Chief Minster’s son (Late-Shri Vilasrao Deshmukh) Riteish was completely down-to-earth.

Best Friends Forever- They Complete Each Other
The story moved forward from here, the two youngsters made things easy for each other on the sets.
Not much people know Riteish is also a professional architect, and architecture is what he used to discuss with Genelia on the sets. 
And young Genelia used to share updates about her college and exams with him.
I Love You- Never Happened 'Officially'

Soon, they became best friends off the sets.
The fondness grew but no formal proposals were made from any side.  
After the Hyderabad shoot, Riteish came back to Mumbai. By now, he had started missing Genelia’s company. She also could not keep herself untouched by his charm. The aura of Riteish was slowly taking over her. Love was never a sudden thing for them, It was a slow process, where they first got to know each other and before they could realize it, they were in love!

Journey from Friends to Best Friends to Life Partners
A 16 year old girl and a 24 year old boy, met back in the year 2002. They gradually fell in love and after a 9 year long relationship, finally tied the knot on February 3, 2012. This youngest couple of Bollywood literally grew up together.
The beauty of this relationship is that they were so used to each other as friends that till now also they don't know when love 'officially' happened and who proposed whom?

A Decade of Love but the Discovery is still ON!
In the times, where break-ups and link-ups are like the trends around, this is one inspiring couple that has stood by each other for more than a decade now. Riteish- Genelia, have always been in love since their first film, but being from a non-filmy background, never disclosed it in the media. The strong bond of commitment between them has made them the first couple of Bollywood to never have a single share of controversy or link-ups with any other co-star till date.

Secrets to a Happy Married Life:

A relationship based on understanding and friendship without insecurities, makes this beautiful couple shine out from rest of the celeb crowd.

Those Unsaid Promises:

Riteish: Genelia gives him unconditional support and love. Her love is the most amazing thing for him. He is deeply and madly in love with his wife.

Genelia: Riteish is a secure husband and even the decision to work in movies after marriage is totally her choice. Her husband is always by her side to support her in her decisions. For her, guys like Riteish are rare in today's world.

Most Beautiful Part about This Couple
There were no formal proposals, no candle light dinners to woo each other.  For Riteish and Genelia being happy with the person one loves has always been the most important thing. With parent’s blessings always by their side, this couple never gave a second thought to marriage. The most romantic aspect of this celeb-jodi is that they started off being friends and even after their marriage are still the best of friends.

A journey from being 'sweet' young lovers to a beautiful 'mature' married couple- Wishing this cutest couple's love to blossom and be as pure as it is now- Forever!

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Love is a genuine feeling which happens only to those people who are mature enough to care for it and dare for it.



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